Reviews of Building Better Bridges
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Reviewed by Sean MacLeish
Bridges is one of the latest works by Dr. Steve Frisch, a clinical psychologist who
practices in Chicago. Frisch has a diverse clinical background and his work is reflective
of such. He is a certified marriage and family counselor and has worked in chemical
dependency programs. Frisch founded the Adult Children Institute, which specializes in
working with adults who were raised in the influences of emotional neglect, drugs and
alcohol, and sexual and physical abuse. The effects of this upbringing include low
self-esteem and relationship issues such as commitment and fear of emotional intimacy.
This work laid the foundation for Frisch's Relationship, Bridge Building and Pathfinders
personal growth programs which are the fruition of his research and work in human growth
and potential development.
Bridges is a workshop in print that challenges you to take responsibility for the
relationships you choose and provides you with the tools to create, nurture and maintain
those relationships that are most meaningful.
Most of us have had
less than satisfactory relationships or are currently in one. Who hasn't asked, "Why
am I always attracting the wrong people and creating unhealthy relationships?" The
common factor is you and this book provides you with the tools to make a difference by
placing the responsibility of creating better relationships on you. We choose the people
in our lives that can either hurt us or bring us joy. The Relationship Bridge-Building
Program operates on three basic premises. The first is that our lives are more rewarding
when we are able to create great relationships and the second is that our spiritual
well-being is directly related to the relationship we have with ourselves. The third
premise is that there is set of skills that we can learn that will repair the injuries we
carry inside of us.
This book is written
in easy to understand language and does not get bogged down in "psycho babble"
or jargon which can easily distance the reader from achieving results. If you are ever
wary of self-help books, I think you will appreciate and find this one comfortably
digestible. The book is broken down into the various Relationship Bridge Building
principles which include involvement, trust, support and accountability, communication,
personal freedom and responsibility. Each principle is defined, explained, and the tools
are given to achieve such. Frisch gives examples from his clinical work in most chapters
to exemplify the failures/success of the lack of or attainment of these principles.
You will find pieces
of your own life in this book as I did. There will be principles that you have already
learned and some still seemingly unachievable. There can be no harm in repeating or
reinforcing them as they are the foundation and blocks to a healthy relationship.
"One of the most
amazing paradoxes in the world can be seen in people who genuinely want fulfilling
relationships, yet consistently sabotage them," Frisch writes. His book adequately
shows that without first taking responsibility for the relationships we choose in life
there will be no hope in making them better and more meaningful. The Bridge Building
principles seem simple by themselves but without having a clear understanding of how to
use them effectively they can become complex and destructive.
For example, there is
the principle of trust which is crucial to the longevity of a healthy relationship. 1,
myself, have trouble trusting someone whom I care a great deal for and I am sure I am not
alone in this dilemma. Frisch writes, "One way of looking at trust is to expect.
Trusting one another is not a weakness, it is a strength. And someone who trusts is to be
respected." This is very simply put but so powerful in its naiveté.
This small book will
help you to remove some of the cynicism, distrust and disillusionment from past unhealthy
behavior which created angst in your relationships.
by Alice Wright
just received Building Better Bridges. Dr. Frisch is very straightforward and makes
you look at what it is that you need to do about the problems in your relationship, not
what you are going to get your partner to do. Its a pleasure to have a resource with
all of his professional insights without having to swim through a bunch of psycho-babble
to make his points. I would recommend this book to anyone, whether they are in a rocky
marriage or single, because it really does allow you to not only repair the problems in
your relationship but it allows you to better understand yourself as well.
by Thomas Bass
Building Better Bridges deserves many more than five stars. It is as close as you can
get to having a hands-on guide to improving your relationships as you can get without
having a trained counselor present. It's too bad that most people will take on this book
because they have a bad or failing relationship. It would be much better to start with
this approach in the beginning. I hope marriage advisors, parents, living together
couples, and engaged people will become familiar with this book and recommend it to
by Rhonda Erickson
wife and I read this book together, and it was wonderful. We've been married for a little
over three years now. Wow, what a difference this book has made in how we act towards each
other and how we feel about each other. Dr. Frisch helped us make the little changes we
knew we wanted to make but didnt know how to make in how we treated each other.
Those little changes in how we treat each other has made big changes in how we get along
with each other. I definitely recommend Building Better Bridges for anybody who
wants their relationships to work better than ever.
by Herman Nash
great relationships, writes Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D. in his new book Building Better
Bridges/Creating Great Relationships With The People Who Matter Most, is the main
ingredient for our emotional and spiritual well-being. The secret to creating great
relationships is embedded in ones ability to utilize a specific set of relationship
Frisch should know. As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Frisch brings to Building Better
Bridges the wisdom gained from years of clinical experience. Whether it be a drug
rehab clinic, a half-way house for the homeless, in-patient hospital setting, marathon
workshops, Relationship Bridge-Building groups, or in his private practice, Dr. Frisch has
worked with thousands of individuals trying to find the path to a life of emotional and
spiritual well-being. He has devoted his entire clinical career to teaching people the
skills necessary to create a life full of personal and professional fulfillment and
In Building Better Bridges, Dr. Frisch tackles head-on the
challenges all people experience in their relationships. Anyone can master the art
of creating great relationships, Dr. Frisch writes. It is merely a matter of
mastering some very simple skills.
Were all in the same boat. The biggest obstacle we
all have to overcome is our fear. The skills taught in Relationship Bridge-Building can
free anyone from the fear and discomfort inevitably provoked in most of our relationships.
imagine the sense of freedom that can come from feeling better about yourself and the
people in your life. Your fears finally replaced with a quiet self-confidence that comes
from knowing how to create and sustain great relationships.
secret to this new found self-confidence? Knowing how to tap into the power of what Dr.
Frisch calls our offering and seeking spirits. These twin life-forces can empower anybody
to create great relationships at work or at home, with strangers or long-time friends. In
the final analysis, a persons relationship skills will greatly influence how
fulfilling their lives can be.
doesnt share the very same sentiments first expressed by Shakespeare Be
wealthy in your friends? Yet the times we live in are a big obstacle to our ability
to create and sustain any kind of meaningful interpersonal connections.
depersonalization. A mobile society. A displaced workforce. An ever-changing world. The
quick-paced times in which we live leaves precious little time to establish meaningful
connections. The net effect is people are hungering for meaningful contact.
Frisch emphasizes that these obstacles are more easily overcome when you know what you are
doing. It is critical that people understand that great relationships are not a
function of a so-called healthy personality, rather they are a function of a
very specific skill set.
relationships are created by harnessing the power of the important relationship dynamics
Dr. Frisch highlights such as Involvement, Support, Personal Freedom, Trust,
Communication, Acceptance, and Commitment. Rewarding relationships are merely the natural
outcome of mastering and applying the skills that express these relationship
relationship skills arent only a necessity for our personal lives. Elia Kazan, the
famous stage and film director once said, 80 percent of this business is the ability
to get along with people. Not talent, not brilliance, not who you know, but the ability to
get along with people.
very simple, says Dr. Frisch, the ability to get along in our world with all
different kinds of people is the most important skill we can cultivate in our personal and
single biggest interpersonal arena in our lives is the work place. Think about the skills
necessary to survive in the world of business. Group leadership skills. Assertiveness.
Conflict resolution. Consensus building. Giving and receiving feedback. Team-building.
Problem-solving skills. Interpersonal negotiating skills. Selling yourself and your
in life all boils down to ones ability to create quality relationship-bridges.
The successful person is the person who knows how to create relationships that respect a
Frisch concludes by saying, Bridge-building is not only for the person who wants to
become a winner in their personal life, it is for the person who wants to become a winner
in any arena of life where creating respectful, cooperative relationships is
than just a tutorial for creating great relationships, Building Better Bridges is a mirror
into our very soul. Building Better Bridges was written, in part, to help people enhance
their own self-awareness. A person needs to be more able to better understand who they
are, the choices they make, and the way they contribute to attracting the people who are
in their lives.
indeed, says Dr. Frisch. We all need to learn about ourselves as well as the
skills necessary to build better bridges with the people who matter most. Relationship
skills without an enhanced self-awareness renders either impotent.
it is not surprising that Building Better Bridges is a book that will nourish the
readers mind as well as feed their soul. Not only will a person discover the secrets
to creating great relationships, they will be swept along by an intensely personal journey
into their own soul.
is something different and exciting about all of that. Most self-help literature leaves a
person with the sense of having been there, done that. But Building Better
Bridges has a fresh, engaging style that is creatively appealing. It is a clever book that
expresses impactful psychological principles in an easy to read style that entertains the
reader as much as it illuminates important relationship dynamics. Dr. Frischs
engaging style teaches the reader simple but powerful relationship principles by sharing
personal anecdotes that articulate very clearly and entertainingly simple ways to build
"You have always
wanted a friend to talk to you like this. It nourished my mind and fed my soul, with
Steve's no nonsense approach, I actually feel a better understanding of myself as a woman,
my choices, and my relationships."
Dr. Gayle Black, Ph.D., Author of The Sun Sign Diet.
"Steve turns the practice of realtionships into an art form,... it is a
testimony to the connection between our emotional and spiritual well-being and how well we
relate to the people who matter most."
Tony Ferrante, Author of Letters from the Closet, Winner of the Benjamin Franklin
"If you want the very soul of your life to be touched and transformed forever,
Building Better Bridges, can show you the way. It is a mirror of all of our hopes and
desires, a means by which we can make our dreams come true."
Sally Edwards, Author of Heart Zone Training
chemical dependency and its toxic impact on family members. Raise your
children to choose to be alcohol and other drugs
free. Learn how
to in Dr. Frischs, Psy.D. Recovery book series.