By Dr. Steve Frisch, Psy.D.
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If he [the teacher] is indeed wise, he does not bid
you enter the house of his wisdom, but rather leads you to the threshold of your own.
most profound existential urge is to grow and evolve. We all are moved by our inner quest
to find meaning, to create a sense of orientation in the universe. I cant think of
anybody who isnt hungering for a deeper sense of purpose in their lives, a deeper
connection to the underlying forces of life.
path we follow to quench our thirst for meaning and growth is a process of growth fraught
with challenging milestones along the way. Each step of the process presents us with
different obstacles from which valuable lessons can be learned about ourselves. These
lessons are the source from which enlightenment sheds its brilliance on our path, enabling
us to find our way out of the darkness of the shadows and discovering the means by which
we can [re]connect to our lifes journey.
have written this book to assist you in your own searching. Included in Stepping Out of
the Shadows are the lessons I have discovered in my own searching as well those I have
learned from guiding others on their own personal journey.
more than just a guide for your journey, this book is a special invitation. An invitation
to shrink your ego and expand your soul. An invitation to explore and discover. To create
a personal blueprint for your emotional and spiritual well-being. A blueprint that will
reveal to you the path to a life of emotional richness and well-being.
explore within yourself. Explore the festering wounds that hold you back, that tend to
appear in your life in ways that limit you. Wounds that never seemingly heal. Wounds that
leave you feeling estranged from yourself, the people in your life, and the purpose your
the years, it has been my privilege to share this journey with people just like you.
Weve touched the depth of despair as well as ascended unimaginable heights. Through
my own journey, as well as my work with others, I have learned much. One thing I have
discovered is that in order to step out of the shadows so that we may [re]connect with our
lifes journey, we all will inevitably encounter a series of passageways as we follow
our evolutionary path of growth and becoming.
book is my attempt at presenting to you what process we follow as we step out of the
shadows. Because the telling of a story is only two dimensional while our lives are
three-dimensional, its impossible to capture the true interrelated nature of these
passageways. Although I present each passageway of the process in a particular order, you
will encounter them in your life in a continually evolving, ever-changing interdependent
divided this book into eight sections. The first section will provide you with an overview
of the journey that lies ahead. Following the first section, I present to you each of the
seven passageways we will walk through together on this very special journey.
section of the book is intended to serve as a mirror for you to look into--an opportunity
to find yourself in each stage of transformation. For many of you, a specific section may
serve as a rearview mirror. You may discover that you have already walked the walk of a
certain section. Use such a section as a way of measuring how far you have already come,
as well as reflect upon what the lessons of that process were for you. For others, each
section will serve as a beacon of light, shedding a bright ray of hope where now there is
have included in each section what I call Pathfinders Tips. These tips will enable
you to either begin or to continue your very personal work. Beyond providing you with
specific tools to enhance your journey, there are exercises throughout the book that will
enable you to more personally explore the material covered.
follows is a short overview of the sections contained in the book.
the Soul focuses on the toxic influences that deaden the soul as well as the means to
awaken what we have buried so deep within ourselves that we have lost touch with those
parts of ourselves.
the Spirit explores how we bind our spirit in such a fashion that our lives become
emotionally and spiritually dead. In this section, we examine what our spirit is and how
we can set our spirit free.
the Path provides a direction for us to focus our efforts on. Once our soul has
awakened and our spirit has been liberated, this section will provide a means for
self-examination in order that we can create the necessary focus for our journey.
the Mindset is an important section for anyone who is seeking to unlock the prison
that their mind creates for themselves. We explore how to free ourselves from the prison
of inflexible thinking as well as create the joy we might experience from living a life
grounded in the here-and-now.
Your Wounds paints a picture of ways we can change the relationship we have with
ourselves. The very quality of this relationship we have with ourselves is very much
connected to the depth of well-being we experience in our lives.
the Bonds of Fellowship focuses on our need to connect to the people who matter most
to us in a very special way. We will discover how our relationships are the most important
antidote for a spirit that has been ravaged by loneliness and alienation.
of Life enables us to put into perspective what our journey can be like, as well as
some specific pointers that we all need to bear in mind as we stay involved with our
journey you and I are about to embark upon is unique--unique because no two people will
experience the material in this book the same way. No two people will find the same
material equally important or irrelevant.
one word of caution as you begin. Theres nothing here that needs to be learned. But
theres much here for you to experience so that you may learn. Do the best you can to
patiently work with the material that is presented to you. My only intention in writing
this book is to light a thousand small fires to illuminate your path as you step out of
the shadows and [re]connect to your lifes journey.
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